After a long day of meeting investors, Raj returned home tired looking forward to Seema’s smile that always erased his concerns away. He rang the bell the third time in a row, knowing that even if he had the key he loved seeing her open the door every evening. He was impatient at the door, running through the unsuccessful meetings and stubborn managers that made him lose more money than making some. Battling thoughts away he realized that the door wasn’t opened and rummaged through his pockets to fetch his keys. Wondering what kept Seema busy, he opened the door to hear a wailing noise of his daughter. A year back when Seema announced her news of pregnancy, they were a nonchalant couple, shifting through cities and jobs and embracing travel at every opportunity. They were a carefree young married duo that had no savings lest any fruitful investments. Raj could have felt the walls closing in on him, realizing that this wasn’t on the agenda but when did they ever have a plan! Amidst all the discussions and opinions they bravely delved in the gift bestowed upon them and things were never the same again. The endless chats about travel goals soon turned into the next best pediatrics, the thirst for cuisines became the search for parenting classes and the empty bank started ringing of accumulated pennies!
Raj walked into the room with his hands in the air “ Another day and I don’t see you at the door”
A disheveled Seema “ Honey, I’m trying to calm your daughter! Look she throws a tantrum just like you”
His love for her had deepened with the shift in her personality. She was a woman, displaying brilliant shades of pure love. Her wavering vision had focused and she was much calmer. Her natural belonging toward home now drew him closer to her. It was like he was weaving another web of attachment. Raj loved discussing his day with her, it was like a run through of his deliverables, like she would be the right audience to his qualms. Seema was a stay at home mom, they couldn’t afford a nanny yet. He needed to converse with her immediately, He scooped his three-month-old daughter up from her arms and started rocking her trying to pacify her. She started bawling loudly and Seema came in and said “ Maybe she’s hungry”
This constant battle of figuring what their infant wanted cost them immense energy and patience! Most of their fights were deciding which reason would console their baby girl! Seema at the increasing wails “ Maybe you should sing to her” Raj growing impatient “Would you just wait and let me try” This argument was a common each evening! Seema “Im just trying to help” Raj “ Sometimes you need to just trust” The baby’s cries growing louder. After two hours of back and forth attempts by each to pacify their baby sleeps. Seema and Raj breathe a sigh of relief.
Seema “ What should I make for dinner?”
Raj looked at her sunken eyes and understood her day-long struggle and said “ I feel like ordering Chinese” and sat on the nearby couch. He wasn’t so fond of it but saving her the cooking could buy him alone time with her while the baby slept and the Chinese would lift her mood.
Seema knowing her husband well “ Raj, what did I do to have got you, I love you” She sat beside him and Raj held her close. This was the most precious moment of their day. Seema rested her head on his shoulder. Raj casually put the telly on and played the evening show. None of them spoke for a while. Of half an hour staying close to each other, they heard the baby cry.
Raj “ Sit Seema, enjoy the show, let me get her”
Sometimes, the day may not go as you plan, but it holds small moments of happiness that define your home. As a couple, you may not need to communicate everything but identify things naturally to help each other. It’s living through decisions together that make a happy marriage devoid of plans!