How to choose and contain the right life partner

How are you supposed to know if the person you’re with right now is the one? The one that you’re going to want to spend the rest of your life with, have a ton of love with, and even create kids with?

Let’s talk about a few points and generalized statements that tell you whether he’s the one for you or not :

1) He’s always talking about you :

Of course, we’re not talking about those occasional times he gets with the guys and complains about for whatever he did wrong this week. That’s just him venting and, hell, you do it every time you go to brunch. But if he’s always bragging about you — whether it be because you got another promotion at work or planned the perfect exotic vacation, then you’ve got a good one .

2) He’s focussed on you:

If he shows his focus on you and likes being with you planning his time now and then with you, undoubtedly he’s the one. His focus could be clear in the way he cares, shares, talks and tests you. If that’s done, you have one of the best partners you could’ve asked for.

3) He wants kids:

When you both know you’re on the same page regarding the things that matter most (how you spend your time, how you want to raise kids, how you handle finances), that’s an indicator you’re willing to work through whatever life throws at you together.

4) When he opens the door for you:

Yes, he’s aware that you can open it yourself. And yes, he knows you can pay for dinner too. But men often equate chivalrous acts with respect, and that he can — and wants — to take care of you. So if he continues to do the gentlemanly things he did when he was first trying to woo you, give yourself a little smile as you duck into the car.

5) You’ve made it through some tough stuffs:

Whether that be the death of a family member, a long-distance relationship, or unexpectedly losing a job, you people have weathered a storm and made it out the other side together. Reilly says having your relationship put through the test before you commit for good could be what sets this one apart from the rest. “How we handle ourselves under pressure shows our level of resilience and commitment, plus our problem-solving and self-soothing skills,” she says. “Working through adversity together makes you stronger and will often deepen your connection, and this shows the two of you are likely willing to hang in there to work things out.”

6) You look forward to the end of the day:

Not because you’ll be done with work, but because it means you get to see him and unwind together.

This is a sign that you’ve found your person — it matters that you simply want to be together, regardless of what you’re doing.

7) He’s close with your family:

And you’ve bonded with his. When you decide to spend your life with someone, family is an important part.

8) Work isn’t his only priority:

His job is important to him, but you are too. So if you ask him to go to an event and he reworks his schedule, that’s relationship goals.

9) He cares about your friends:

When he takes the time to remember your friends’ names, their life situations, and even asks about how they’re doing, that’s a clear sign he cares. He recognizes that these people are an important part of your life, and if he sees the two of you together, that means they’re going to be an important part of his, too.

10) He still compliments you:

Whether you’ve been together eight years or one, if he still tells you you look beautiful and brainy that’s a sign he’s able to move a relationship beyond the fireworks stage of new love and is willing to have you over a lifetime.

11) You aren’t afraid to vent :

Sometimes a girl just needs to get something off her chest. That shows you, again, aren’t afraid to be vulnerable and express your emotions to him. No relationship can be conflict-free — you’ve got a keeper if you can be upset about something and the two of you can handle some heat and work through any differences.”

I’ve always been hearing that “someone somewhere is made for all”. They often say”marry them if they are the one”. I am quite fascinated by the idea of meeting that one who everybody keeps mentioning.

How do we really find that one?

How do we really know if we’ve found that one??

And how to contain that one throughout this life?

What if I feel ‘maybe I’ve found the one’ or what if ‘maybe not’? So many Maybes and maybe nots in life. Aren’t they tiring!

And it’s not easy to understand who’s meant for us too. It’s a huge dilemma.

Here are six ways to find the right partner for you:

1. Avoid Mr. and Mrs. Wrong. The best partner for a fulfilling relationship is one who is warm, cooperative and emoti

2. Find someone stable in all respects …

3. Find Someone You Can Talk To. …

4. Avoid Deal Breakers. …

5. Find Someone Who Makes You Laugh. …

6. Opposites Attract. …

7. Don’t Rush.

Marriage isn’t a toddler’s play. You cannot just leave something you aren’t liking. You have to cope up, you have to strengthen the weakest links and you have to make things happen even if it’s difficult and bring out the good from the bad days. So, instead of paying the price later and succumbing yourself into the nuptial arrest, think wisely and then perseverance is the key.

1. Don’t make choices out of fear

2. Be careful of jumping into a committed relationship right off the bat

3. Throw out your checklist

4. Look for qualities that are the foundation of a good partnership, throw the tiny details out

5. Don’t confuse an “emotional roller coaster” with being crazy about someone

6. Don’t keep waiting for something to change that obviously won’t

7. Find someone you can be yourself around

Sometimes it takes seeing a lot of what you don’t want to figure out what you do want. Enjoy yourself!

Like they say, “it’s better to marry long, than to marry wrong”. Take your time. Everybody has their own time. Just because they are getting married doesn’t mean you should to.

Marry when you want to, when you like to, when you should and with whom you feel the connect.

Trust your instincts. If you feel something is wrong, it actually is. Do not wrongly estimate your instincts for the first ones are always correct. If you feel he or she is the one, go ahead. If life makes you feel they aren’t the one at any point of time, back off. Don’t give wrong chances to yourself.

You deserve to be with the right one.

You deserve to be happy.

You deserve to be the pilot of your life.

If you know they are the one, good-luck for life. If you know they aren’t, have patience.

Wait for the one who knows your flaws and loves them. Wait for the one who loves your beauty and your scars equally. Wait for the one who knows you aren’t perfect and doesn’t want you to be one. And above all , wait for the one who makes you a priority, because that’s where you belong.

When I met my ‘right one’, there was something about those days and nights and life. He was one bright star in the entire sky crowded with millions and there was a reason why he shined the brightest and why others went unnoticed.

Nobody ever took my name the way he did.

Nobody existed in my vocabulary and he became the only word I love.

Nobody’s stare ever looked so pleasant.

Nobody really loves me the way he does.

Nobody knows to be a better husband than him.

Some days I keep panicking.

Some nights I keep roaming like mess.

There are days he knows am crazy.

There are nights he sees me turning weird.

One those nights, one thing that turns me out of my shell is that look. Nobody has ever looked at me like this.

And that’s how I know he’s the one !

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