“If a man is interested, no distance will stand in the way. But if he is not interested, you can live next door, and that’s too far for him to go.” A man has a strong desire to be the initiator in relationships. That’s part of his manhood. He wants to seize the challenge. A man loves the pursuit. Trust me. When he sees what he wants, he goes after it. If a man you adore is not pursuing you, he is not interested in you
Despite what a woman might think are the reasons why a man doesn’t pursue her strong enough, the ultimate and genuine reason is the fact that he’s simply not into her enough. Let’s settle this once and for all. He is not shy. You do not intimidate him.. Men can make endless excuses as to why they don’t go after a woman. They’ll tell her anything, and many times even lie to her or go around the bush in order to prevent her from feeling hurt or knowing that they’re simply not interested. A man will say that he’s busy, that he’s swamped with work, that he has other things going on, or he might even ghost a woman, and not pay much attention to her.
He is charming, fully equipped with a mesmerizing smile and a laugh that makes you melt. He opens doors for you, and he’s even taken you on a few dates. But, what about all the confusing text messages that completely mislead you? What about all the times that you’ve been left wondering if you did something wrong to have upset him or cause him to lose interest in you? Stop chasing after a boy who won’t give you the time of day, or who isn’t putting in the effort to talk to you. The second that you begin to doubt that you are anything special is the second you need to stop talking to him.
Don’t be the woman that lets a man play with her mind, her feelings, or even her body. A woman should be confident and secure enough with herself, and she should know her self-worth and not waste her time by waiting around for a man who’s not willing to go after and pursue her. The idea of letting a man pursue you might sound old-fashioned but consider this: A man will show you who he is by how he dates you. The way he communicates with you, and romances you, and tries to impress you.
A real man will pursue you every day. A real man will motivate you to be the best you that you can be, and he will admire you for all your flaws. He won’t say that he accepts those flaws and then use them against you when he’s angry or frustrated with you like a boy would, a real man will respect you no matter what. A real man will lead you closer to your goals because he wants you to succeed, and he wants you to be happy. A real man will not play with your emotions like a toy, and he won’t call you only when it’s convenient for him. Life is busy, but if he truly cares about you he will make time for you, not just try to squeeze you into a certain time slot when he has nothing going on.
You should be with a man that shows you that he cares, a man that won’t have you questioning everything or have you confused, you should be with a man that sees you as a “priority”. Let me tell you right now that you don’t deserve to be “talking” to someone. You do not deserve to submit yourself to being a “thing” with someone. NO. You deserve a love so pure that even the whitest rose could not compare to the purity of your feelings for one another. You deserve to have confidence that you are more than a thing or someone for him to hang out with when it’s convenient for him.
You deserve to be pursued by a real man. Being alone can be hard sometimes but liking someone who isn’t interested or doesn’t show his interest for you can be even more painful. Time will take its course. And in that time while you wait for him, love yourself so fiercely that only a true man would be brave enough to pursue you. At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away. We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.
In spite of what many of you may think and how many excuses you can come up with for a man who is not putting enough effort in pursuing you, still, the main reason why a man is not coming strong enough when it comes for you it is because he is just not that into you. Period. It is not that he is shy. It is not that he is intimidated by your independence and strength. He simply doesn’t like you enough. And it all comes down to the simple fact that men love the chase. They love the pursuit. They love to be the initiators in the relationship. For centuries, men have always been the pursuers and women the gatherers. It is all in their blood. So, when a man realizes that he cares about a woman and that he wants to be with – he’ll go after her. He’ll pursue her. If you are in love with someone and he knows it, but he is not doing anything about it – then the truth is he is not interested in you.
Ladies listen to me. A man may give you a million excuses as to why he can’t be with you. He may tell you he is overwhelmed with work, family issues blah . All these excuses won’t matter when he meets a woman that he truly likes. So, if it looks as if someone doesn’t give a damn about you, the harsh truth is – he doesn’t. Men are really simple when it comes to expressing their emotions. Usually, there are no hidden messages for you to decipher. When they want something, they go after it. They don’t over think. And certainly, they don’t make excuses for it. Be the strong woman that you are and walk away from men who make you wonder where you stand with them. Leave the men that don’t want to commit to you in a real way. Don’t pursue a man who is not interested in you. Let him go. You are better than that. Because, a real man, a man who really cares about you – he will pursue you every single day. He will be always looking for ways to surprise you and let you know how much he loves you and how much he wants to be with you. He will never risk losing you. He will always pick up the phone. He will inspire you. He will compliment you.He will not play with your feelings. You will always know where you stand with him. You will never be anxious and confused. You will never have second thoughts or doubts about his feelings for you.You will be a priority for him.
Ladies, never let a man take you for granted. Wait for someone who knows what he has when he has you.A man can have a million reasons to not go after you. He can tell you anything you might want to hear to make you feel better about him giving up on you. He might even be lying to you by telling you that it’s just beyond his control and that the circumstances of the situation are what are preventing him from really going after you. And he’s only doing this because he doesn’t want you to get hurt; he’s trying to shield you from the harsh realities of the truth; and the truth is that he just doesn’t like you enough to actually make an effort. He’s not so interested in you to the point that he’s willing to face the challenges that come with your relationship. He might tell you that he’s just swamped with work and the he has so many other things going on in his life. He might be telling you that he’s just not emotionally ready to be in a relationship with anyone; but deep down inside, you know the truth. It’s not that he’s not ready to be in a relationship; it’s just that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship – with you in particular. And that’s the realness of the situation. That’s the reality of things.
If he wants you around, he’ll do anything to keep you around. Absolutely anything. If not, you are fooling around. If he loves you, he won’t let you wonder about it. If he truly loves you, he’s not going anywhere. You are his ultimate destination. Absolutely !