If He Truly Loves You
Men aren’t always going to be so communicative in relationships. And that’s why you really need to take it upon yourself to read the signs in your relationship to know if he really loves you or not. The first thing that you need to know is that men are more of physical communicators than they are verbal ones. And you have to be looking at your guy’s general conduct whenever he’s around you to figure out if his feelings for you are real or not.
And if you don’t know what you need to be looking for, then this article is the right one for you. Here are a few things that you need to be on the lookout for with your man in your relationship. If you find that he does a lot of these things, then chances are that he really is in love with you; and it’s safe for you to invest your feelings in him as well.
Men are not great at expressing our emotions in words. They are more comfortable with deeds and actions than trying to express complex emotional states. They are raised to be strong and unshakable bastions of safety that our friends, family, and lovers can retreat to when they are in pain or danger. Being vulnerable and open is difficult for them, but not impossible.
HOW TO KNOW HE TRULY LOVES YOU : Few simple ways to know…
He Loves and Respects You For Who You Are.
In a culture of superficial beauty and disposable relationships, when a man truly loves you, he loves all of you, not just your beauty. He loves you for who you are. He loves your flaws as well as your virtues. He respects your decisions and choices in life.
He Is Your Biggest Cheerleader.
When a man loves you, it isn’t enough for him to be successful on his own; he also wants you to be successful in whatever you choose to do. He is your biggest fan and most vocal cheerleader. He believes in you and what you can accomplish. He lets everyone know how awesome you are.
He Protects You.
A man places himself between danger and that which he loves. He shields you not just from physical harm, but also emotional traumas. Always vigilant and always on guard, he is ready at a moment’s notice to place himself in harm’s way. He does not raise his hands against those he loves. It would never cross his mind.
He Steps Up.
When times are tough or there is a tough decision to make, a man steps up and takes action. He does not shift the responsibility to others. He takes responsibility.
He makes any sacrifice necessary.
His personal comforts and safety are secondary considerations. When things go wrong, he takes the blame and the responsibility for making things right again.
He Values Your Opinion.
When a man loves you, your opinions matter to him. Your opinions on all things great and small are important to him.
When you speak, he stops what he is doing to listen to you. What you have to say is important to him, even if it is trivial day-to-day stuff. He pays attention to you because you are the most important person in his world.
He remembers things like your favoritecolor, how you like your coffee or what types of books you are into. He remembers because you are important to him. It may seem trivial to you, but to him, you are the focus of his world. He is your biggest fan and remembering how you like your ice cream is just natural.
He Goes Out Of His Way.
If you need him, he will stop what he is doing and go out of his way to help you. He will drive an hour to fix your printer that isn’t working and then drive back an hour to go to work. You are important to him, so he will find a way to make it happen. It is no trouble. It is an act of devotion.
He Loves Enough To Let Go.
When a man is secure in his love for you, then he has no problem with you hanging out with your girlfriends for the evening. He is not clingy and demanding of your time. He understands you are busy and have a life of your own. We all need our time apart with our friends to do the things we are passionate about.
He Misses You.
When you have to travel for work or to visit family, he misses you when you are gone. He thinks about you while you are away and will send goofy little notes to let you know you are on his mind. He will be glad and excited to see you when you get back as well.
He Feels Your Pain.
If you are hurting, then he is hurting as well. It is like he can physically feel your pain. We men are meant to protect our mates, and if they are hurting, then we have somehow failed in protecting them. He wants to soothe your pain and shield you from harm. He doesn’t want to see you hurting or in pain.
He really listens to you whenever you talk. He understands that communication is important inyour relationship. And he also knows that part of being a good communicator is being a good listener. And he always wants to make you feel like you are safe to express yourself however you see fit. He will always listen to you.
He puts in the extra effort for the sake of the relationship.
He knows that it always takes a lot of hard work to make sure that a relationship lasts, and that’s why he never shies away from putting in the effort for you. It really shows in the way that he conducts himself in your relationship.
He takes note of all the little things.
He has great attention to detail. And he is always proving to you that he doesn’t take you or the relationship for granted. He gives importance even to the simplest aspects of your relationship.
He puts your happiness above his own.
He really prioritizes your happiness. He always wants to make sure that you are happy in life. He always wants to make sure that you aren’t feeling sad or down. And that’s why he does whatever it takes to put a smile on your face; even if it means compromising his own happiness.
He shows genuine concern for your family.
He isn’t merely concerned about you. But he loves you enough to actually show concern for the people who are closest to your heart. He really cares about the people you most care for as well.
He puts his trust in you.
He always makes you feel like he can trust you. And he does that by genuinely opening himself up to you. He allows himself to get vulnerable and intimate with you. He never wants you to feel like he can’t feel safe with you.
He does whatever he can to make your life easier.
He always puts the extra effort into trying to make your life as easy as possible. He always puts in the extra effort to make your life as comfortable as possible. And that sometimes means doing the chores and running the errands that you don’t want to have to deal with yourself.
He always stays truthful to you.
You know that he loves you when he always stays truthful towards you. He always makes it a point, to be honest with you even if it means that being honest is eventually going to get him into trouble. He wants you to feel safe around him by always being genuine and sincere around you.
He treats you in a respectful manner.
It really matters to him the kind of image that he is giving off to you. He always wants to leave a really good impression on you. And that’s why he’s always going to be respectful towards you. It doesn’t matter if you’re treating him terribly. He’s always going to treat you with genuine care and respect because he knows that that is the kind of treatment that you are deserving of.
When some men say “I love you,” it means “I’m not leaving” or “I’ll always be faithful.” This can be very scary for some men. They feel the words themselves are a promise, and if the promise is broken, they will suffer as well. Men don’t want to break their promises to you. Most want to be able to follow through and give you what they want. In the end, they just want you to feel good about them—and to feel good about themselves as well.
It is therefore quite evident in the way he treats you and keeps fighting for you. Even if there’s a wall put up between you, he’ll try to climb up the wall towards you to bridge the gap and make things fine. He knows he loves you and will make sure it reaches to you.
Ihe loves you, you won’t ever wonder if he does or doesn’t. Only he can give you that feeling. And that’s probably the reason you are smiling now. J
About the Author
A Banker by profession, a Blogger and a content writer by passion, Sonali is a Gold medalist in Management as a post-graduate and an economics graduate. A painter and nature lover, she's passionate for art and photography. She finds peace and calmness in words inscribed on paper. She has written blogs, articles, newsletters, quotes, poetries ,stories, technical and financial content as a professional. Of all the things in the world, she likes to fall for a pen and paper each time because Writing is her favorite escape. She's a self motivated and a self driven person and loves to inspire and motivate people. She believes in 'doing what you love and loving what you do'.